You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart.
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life. ~ Derek Walcott
Robin Barre Psychotherapy Services Serving Mukilteo, Everett, and the North Puget Sound
The Practice of Depth Psychotherapy
The goal of therapy, of course, is to feel better, to "love again the stranger who was your self." Through talk therapy, active imagination, sandplay therapy, expressive arts such as drawing, collage and journaling, bibliotherapy, story and poetry, the client begins to come into relationship with the cut off and left behind parts of the self, working toward a feeling and experience of greater wholeness.
I offer practical suggestions and experiential work within the session to manage the symptoms of anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress, and the reeling effects of grief and crisis. We look at dynamics, patterns, and boundaries in the challenging relationships in your life. We trace the narrative and archetypal threads that connect you with your past, today, and the larger world.
The tenets of depth psychology gives us a container for looking at the shadowy parts and holding the darker aspects of the self; the work is to compassionately integrate these. This is the practice of therapy. We will work toward healing shame, guilt, coming to terms with childhood and life's daily wounds, and finding a way to "give back your heart to itself."
Not till we are lost, not till we have lost the world, do we begin to find ourselves, and realize where we are and the infinite extent of our relations. ~ Henry David Thoreau ________________________ I found myself within a shadowed forest, for I had lost the path that does not stray. ~ Dante Alighieri ________________
As a depth psychotherapist, I have implicit faith that when we encounter the paradox of finding ourselves lost in Dante's wood, where we are asked to abandon hope, we are on the very path that can lead us back home to ourselves and into the world.
Dante was able to find his way out of the inferno because he had a guide, a witness. This is what I understand the work to be of the depth psychotherapist ~ to witness and guide those who sit across from me. I work with the client to gather the tools and resources needed for the journey. We take the journey together, the client finding effective ways to proceed.
It is my experience that to walk away from or around the pain, healing will not happen. Yet the psyche resists diving straight into the fray. Thus, we meet the resistances in all of their forms with gentleness and strength. The therapist is a compassionate, objective witness and support system for the client as you engage in the work of change and healing.
Those Whom I Serve and Specializations
Depression, post traumatic stress, anxiety, social phobias, grief and loss, family and parenting issues, stress, and difficult life transitions are some of the challenges for which clients may come into therapy seeking relief and answers. A safe, strong space is provided to work through and with these difficulties.
I offer play therapy/child psychotherapy for children ages 5 and up.
Because of my extensive background with adolescents and my work in the field of education, my expertise is working with teens, ages 12 and up, those who work with and care for and about adolescents, and those working in the field of education.
I have an interest and background in marital and partner relationship work.
I have experience working with clients involved in high-conflict family matters and/or who are court-involved.
All sessions are a full 60 minutes long unless requested otherwise.
Questions we may explore are:
Where am I right now, and how do I feel about that? How do I know I feel this way?
To what inner voices was I deaf or ignorant and how do I begin to listen? Who within me now wants to be heard?
What of value, if anything, is to be found here in this place I find myself?
What are the resources, strengths, and potentialities not yet recognized that I can claim?
What meaning might come from the lived experience of being lost?
How do I bear the pain so that I might walk through to the other side?
How do I enter into relationship again or for the first time with the "infinite extent" of the ample, astonishing world?